10.15.2020

Who I'm Voting For

Who I'm Voting For

Some housekeeping before we start: this post is going to be political and from this moment on, and with the way this blog is set up, you now have a choice whether or not to continue reading. I will not be accepting any messages of "keep your political views to yourself" or "this isn't the place for politics" because I am crafting this post in a way where it is not thrust upon you. If politics trigger you, be a better person, and move along. 

Who I'm Voting For

And here's the thing, I am a human being. I have views and opinions and I share these all here on my blog. I am allowed to do so. Just like you are allowed to not read it. So if you chose to read this post, then become offended, it's really on you. Any hateful or mean messages will not be tolerated, will not be responded to, and will not change my mind. 

So if you want to send me a mean message or leave a rude comment, just don't. For both of us, don't. I will leave you to your opinions and I hope you will leave me to mine.

Off topic, but it's always so weird to me that people choose to go out of their way to send hate speech against people's opinions that are different from theirs. What do they hope to achieve? Changing their mind? Just wanting to be mean? Trying to project their own feelings? It never made sense to me. Same thing when people message me saying "I'm unfollowing you" ... like, ok? So what? If me talking about basic human rights and decency to others offends you, there are larger issues at play. 

I believe I am a moderately political person, but I've gotten into it more over the past few years. I openly discuss it with friends and family but I've never believed it should be talked about openly to the public or with people I don't know. So this post is a little different and a little scary. And it's been sitting in my drafts for months. Nagging me, begging to be published. 

I think it's taken me so long to speak out about it out because I wanted it to be right. 

The right time, in the right way, for the right people. But after sitting on this post for a while now, I'm coming to realize that there is never going to be a "right" time. So here we go...


Growing up in Texas, I was raised in a republican household. And like most people, my political views fell in line with my parents and family. So when it came time to pick a party at 18, I registered Republican. I liked George W Bush (he was governor when I was growing up), I liked John McCain, I liked Mitt Romney. I didn't really know much else. My stepdad was one of the first people I truly knew that was a democrat. Even in college, I remember it being so strange to find out one of my best friends was too. It was really that uncommon. I didn't know much else. 

And I think a lot of people have a similar experience, republican or democrat. We all kind of live in an echo chamber of our own beliefs and like-mindedness. It's why I think it's so confusing for people to interact online with others, not like them, each side thinking how could they possibly think this way?

It wasn't until I started dating Andrew that he told me that I wasn't actually a Republican. 

I remember we were getting breakfast before work and somehow talking about politics and he said that none of my beliefs really aligned with the party (at least socially). I wasn't much into politics at the time. I just liked who I liked, not really knowing what they stood for. Honestly just going off who I thought they were as a person. It's why I also liked Obama so much in his last four years.

And it just kind of hit me ... yea, I guess I'm a technically (on paper) a republican but do my values and beliefs actually align with the party I'm a part of? The short answer was no. And the longer scarier answer was I didn't feel like I belonged to either party.

I think part of the reason I never really dove into politics much was because I didn't feel represented by either side. I aligned with different aspects from both parties but never found that represented in anyone in politics. I didn't feel represented by them because they always seemed a little out of touch with my reality. They seemed to be motivated by the wrong things and, in my opinion, have done what is best for them and not for me. And I found that it was always easier to just be blind to it all than to really confront it head on. What is there to do?

In 2016 I was still a registered republican and was honestly super embarrassed in the primaries. There were so many people and worst of all, the people I most liked or aligned with didn't make it far. So when it came down to decide between Trump or Clinton, I decided not to vote. I found myself hating both sides.

Since New York is pretty locked in as a blue state, I decided to forgo casting my ballot and stayed home. Embarrassing, I know. I'm also pretty embarrassed to admit that when Trump did win I honestly thought to myself, "what's the worst that could happen?" I curse the day I ever thought that. It shows how naive and privileged I was/am. What. a. dummy. 

It was only a few weeks in when he imposed his first travel ban, and that's when things started to sink in. 

A switch flipped in my mind: this guy is dangerous. The next four years solidified those fears and brought out deep anger and disgust. The conclusion four years later is that Trump is one of the worst things to ever happen to the presidency. In my opinion, I think he is a liar and is a threat to our democracy. My list of grievances goes on, but at the core of my issue with him is that he is just not a good person. 

Since 2016, I've never felt more abandoned or embarrassed by a party I supported. The people who are in congress and support Trump have lost all consciousness, all morality, and all my support. I'm honestly sickened that they decided to prioritize party over people. I believe they will be shown to be on the wrong side of history.

My philosophy with just about anything is if they don't care for me, then I won't care for them. 

So over the past four years, I started to educate myself more in the realm of politics, started staying up to date with the White House, both parties, the congresspeople that are meant to represent us ... all as the country started to become more and more divided. We stopped listening to facts and science and started making our own narratives to fit the story we wanted to tell. 

Fast forward to the democratic primaries that were just about as embarrassing as the republicans in 2016. They had so much time to find someone to defeat Trump -- literally anyone young and new -- to bring the world back together. Instead, they did the whole "throw it at the wall and see who sticks" game. It was the time to bring in someone other than an old, white, straight male to the presidency. But we got Joe.

Joe Biden wasn't my first (or top three) choice but he is who I will be voting for in November. 

I don't love Biden, nor do I know a lot of people that do, but he's the best we have and we all need to do what we can to help elect him in a few short weeks.

At the core, I believe Biden is a better person than Trump. I believe he will do better things for our country and do his best to move us forward and not backward. I believe he will condemn hatred. I believe he will fight to help save our planet. I believe he will fight to help save rights for all people. And I will simply believe him when he speaks. I believe he will be the best hope for our future.

I'm not trying to be dramatic here, but we truly need to vote as if our lives depend on it. Not just our own lives, but for those whose lives are at stake. We need to care for our neighbors no matter who they are, what they look like, who they love, or where they are from. We need to vote for someone who understands that supporting black lives, women's rights, climate change, access to affordable healthcare and gay rights is not political. It's human decency. It's science. It's the only way we move forward.

This will be a pivotal turn in our nation's future and I didn't want to sit by and not say anything. 


My hope with this blog post is to find others like myself feeling abandoned by a party. Feeling embarrassed and ashamed of the people we've elected to represent us, and also knowing that it is ok to pick a person > party. I hope this post finds people like me when I was younger, going with the flow of what the world around you says to do and think. And that whoever is reading this understands there are other options. There are better ways. That they're not alone if they go against the beliefs of family or friends. I'm here with you. I support you. 

I hope it finds people like me now who know morally that they need to vote for someone they may not truly like all that much. It's about our future, the future of our kids, the future of the world. The future of our rights, and protecting the rights of all those who have come before and that will come after. We need to leave this place better than when we left it. We need to care about the next generations. We need to take action and make sure we are heard. We must decide that the world changes because we demand it to.

We need to vote for Joe. 


43 comments:

  1. Love it. Thank you for using your platform like this.

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  2. I commend you for posting this, and using your platform for something that feels uncomfortable. Yes, we NEED to vote for Joe!

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  3. Thank you for speaking up & boiling it down to one simple thing: being a good person.

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  4. I've read your blog for a long time and never commented... but this was a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing your journey, I think a lot of people will relate. Joe & Kamala!!!

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  5. LOVE this! As someone who has had their "republican bubble" popped over the past four years it's so wonderful to see how we are all learning, growing, and working to putting our country first. Thanks for sharing this awesome post

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  6. Love this!! I think this is actually how a lot of people are feeling right now. Very well said. Bravo for your bravery in sharing your thoughts!

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  7. This was wonderfully worded! Thanks for sharing! I definitely resonate with many things you mentioned in this post.

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  8. This is AMAZING!! Thank you for using your platform for good and for encouraging others to get out and vote!!

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  9. Loooooovee this post! YES! I grew up in the bible belt (still live here) and like you, considered myself to be a republican. I am so ashamed and embarrassed by the party. I also didn't feel 100% in line with the democratic party. So last year I registered as an independent. Can't wait to vote for Kamala Harris...and also Joe Biden. :-) Thank you for being so brave! Bravo!

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  10. Thanks for sharing this. I think stories of people's evolution of thought are very illuminating to all of us and help us explore and solidify our own priorities. I understand how you would feel nervous about putting it out there--I'm that way too--but I'm sure you'll inspire others to reexamine their auto-pilot choices. I think a ton of people have views that don't neatly align with any one party (especially since the party platforms, particularly Republican, bear little resemblance to platforms of years past). I'm 100% here for fighting hard for rights for all humans and our planet....and our democracy needs as many people dedicated to is preservation as we can get. Awesome post!

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  11. Registered Republican here. I did vote for Trump in 2016 and thought the same as you, "what is the worst that can happen?". I was SO SO WRONG. Filling out my absentee ballot in Ohio for Biden now. Thanks for sharing this. My best friend is voting for Trump again as are many family members, because I too was raised Republican. I was in the College Republicans at Kent State (which really takes some balls to do, let me tell you!). I just feel so abandoned by the party. I definitely do not feel at home at the Democratic party side either particularity from a financial stance, but the social aspects are too important this time around. You are far from alone in your feelings and thanks again for sharing!

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    1. Excellent posting. I have followed your blog for a while, and your raw honesty is refreshing. Thank you for being a caring, human being.

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  12. I love this post. I too grew up in a rural republican home and neighborhood and its so easy to fall in line with those perceived values. I too had a wake up call, became obsessed with following the news and politics, and then ultimately re-registered as an Independent, because I truly don't feel represented by either party. I can't wait to vote in just a three short weeks and as a resident in a swing state, hopefully my voice will make a difference, but even if it doesn't go 'my way' I can't imagine my life my life without trying every day to be an informed citizen.

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  13. Thank you for this, because honestly the future scares me but seeing more and more women use their voice is encouraging! Your post reminds me of something the IG account PantSuitPolitics posted the other day about the women who fall in between and don't know how to identify themselves: "I hope the Democratic Party provides a safe place to land. Know that if you vote Biden & then never vote Democratic again we’re happy you joined us. You’ll make our party stronger no matter how short your stay." <3

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  14. Well said, Krista!!! I think there’s a lot of people who will connect with this post and see themselves in the similar situation you found yourself in. It’s such an incredibly tricky time trying to navigate expressing beliefs because people are MEAN. But this is just such a clear, accurate, and hopeful post. I can’t wait to vote Biden (who wasn’t even in my top 5 of people but it is what it is).

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  15. Thank you for sharing! It’s scary to think what is going to happen to our country.

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  16. Thank you for using your platform. I had quite honestly been specifically waiting for it and am really relieved to see it. It’s a brave choice to do what you’ve done here but there is honestly no alternative for content creators anymore. Would you rather lose followers because they simply rejected the notion of you using your platform to take a stance on something important— or would you rather lose followers because they were disappointed that you wouldn’t use your lucrative platform to take a stance for something this important? It’s a choice and it’s easier to be a coward. Thank you for making the right one. So many lives depend on it.
    - A loyal follower

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    1. Ignorant and embarrassing? You are gross. This makes you part of the problem though you have no idea.

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  17. This podcast episode with a former republican political advisor really helped me understand and feel better about abandoning the party as it has so fundamentally disappointed us. Maybe it will be of some comfort to you and others like us, too.

    The Ezra Klein Show: A Devistating Indictment of the Republican Party (with Stuart Stevens)

    https://open.spotify.com/episode/0M2b06JGFPMzr3OZJ3pVoA?si=uQJ4rV6NR7-7OeifxQXBzQ

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  18. Love this so much! Thank you for using your platform and having the courage to talk about politics. It gives me hope
    to see former (or current) republican supporters talking about their disappointment with Trump. I have hated him since the moment he started running and cannot wait to get him out of office. We need to vote for Joe (I did yesterday)! I am also a Latina immigrant and have never had the privilege to not care or not vote.. thank you for realizing the importance of this election and not just staying home! Go Krista!!

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  19. Thank you for this post! There are lots of people who don't identify with all the values in either party, and would prefer a mix of both. But right now we need to get Trump OUT of office, he is bad for this country. I am ashamed of all of our politicians, on both sides, and also our media, for trivializing Trump back in 2016 and for not coming together to unite the country when we needed it most.

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  20. I just want to say what an exceptional post. Thoughtful, considered, mature. I feel I finally resonated with an article. Thank you for using your platform!

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  21. I rarely comment on blog posts, but I want to thank you for using your platform to draw attention to the election. I think your experience will resonate with a lot of people who may feel apathetic towards politics or that neither party represents them. Biden definitely wasn't my first choice either, but the future of our country depends on electing him (and getting rid of Trump). It's not about agreeing with all of Biden's positions or voting for the "lesser of two evils"; it's about preserving our democracy.

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  22. Brava, Krista. Beautifully said and so appreciated. Vote Biden!

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  23. Thank you for bravely sharing your political experience. We all grow up in the political / cultural / economic bubble of our family and finding our voice as an individual is one of the most difficult things in life. Your story of being raised in a Republican household, but later realizing the party doesn’t really align with any of your own social values will definitely resonate with many younger people across the country. I hope we as a society can normalize speaking publicly about political views and stop shaming those with whom we disagree.

    Despite growing up in the Bay Area, my stepfather was also the first real Democrat I ever met. Not because everyone I knew until him was Republican (though my mother and grandmother were both conservative, in odd and wildly inconsistent ways), but because no one around me ever spoke openly about politics. He pushed me to learn more about politics, to feel comfortable sharing my opinions, and to engage in challenging conversations. We didn’t always agree, and my angsty teenage self often stormed off in anger when he pushed too far, but he normalized the topic for me. And now, after a decade of exploration, I’ve gone from aligning with John McCain to an Elizabeth Warren / AOC / Bernie fan girl. Biden and Kamala were definitely not my favorite choices, but politics isn’t about waiting for the perfect candidate to come along and solve everything in an instant. It’s about voting for the person you think will move the country in a positive direction and then pushing them to do better.

    TLDR: Vote for Biden/Harris, otherwise the world will go down in literal flames.

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  24. I’m not sure how many POC readers/followers you have, but as a black follower/fan of your content, this was refreshing to read. Not just because you’re stating and encouraging your audience to vote for someone who at least somewhat cares about Black lives, but also because you’ve so eloquently laid out why. You’ve described your growth and thought process and I assume many of your readers will be able to relate and hopefully it will encourage them to make different decisions as well.

    I have so many white peers who have similar experiences to yours growing up (and who sat out in 2016) and it’s heart breaking, but it’s also your truth. And for you to share that is really encouraging to see.

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  25. I can only imagine the anxiety you must have felt before hitting publish on this post, but know that it was worth it. Know that your words, your views, and your experience resonate with so many of your readers. If the last four years have taught us anything, it's that we cannot be silent or complicit any longer. You took an important step by acknowledging the troubling situation we find ourselves in as a nation and a society, and you shared openly and eloquently about your own journey. Thank you for trusting us with such important content. I have nothing but respect for you after this post!

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  26. Thank you for sharing, Krista. I agree that Biden isn't who I hoped would be our candidate, but I'm enthusiastically voting for him over Trump. I think he is fundamentally decent and will support basic human rights for women, immigrants, BIPOC, and LGBTQ+ people, as well as listen to scientists about COVID and the environment and climate change. I'm sure this wasn't easy to share, and I appreciate you being vulnerable.

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  27. Krista, reading this made me emotional. Thank you for being brave and honest no matter what on your blog. You are strong, mature and a kindhearted human. That’s all that we need, looking out for each other! That’s what it’s about! I will definitely be voting for Joe, and looking out for our communities who are in dire need of support (including us women!). Thank you for sharing ❤️

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  28. Awesome thank you! I resonate so much with this because I was also Republican & my husband pointed out I actually wasn’t. I’m glad to know more now and be doing better.

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  29. Hi Krista - Thank you for using your platform to share this important message. Your honesty and vulnerability will make a difference. As someone who grew up in a swing state with a front row seat to the presidential political machine, I know how difficult it can be to speak your mind when the person next to you likely disagrees. It's so important that we learn to respectfully listen to other people's opinions and encourage conversation about political beliefs, especially amongst women.

    I too will be enthusiastically voting for Joe and Kamala in November. While he was not my first choice either, I staunchly believe that he has the ability and understanding of the system to walk into the White House and begin to course correct the damage of the current administration on day one.

    Again, thanks for sharing. Keep in mind that your followers look to your opinion on so many things - your fundamental belief in the value of human decency and science should be included in that as well. Take care.

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  30. This took so much courage for you to wrtie, thank you for publishing this! Like other people are saying, this election is so much more than voting for a republican or a democrat. It is voting for a cruel, mean spirited guy to remain in power, or a man who is going to help restore what has been lost the past four years.

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  31. Thank you for sharing this. It's great to hear that you've invested more time in analyzing your own beliefs about politics over the last four+ years and come to your own conclusions. I hope this inspires others who sat out the last presidential election to go vote themselves!

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  32. Thank you for sharing this! I can only imagine how daunting it was to press the publish button, but truly every person can make a difference in voting for Biden & I believe influencers, such as yourself, can make a big difference in encouraging people to do so! And as you noted, at the end of the day it’s NOT about Biden, it’s about human rights, the future of our country and our world. Thank you again for your bravery in a time when there can be so much hate

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  33. This is the first time I have read your blog. I never comment on people’s posts. You are brave and you made my day. I fear that everyone who voted for him the first time will vote for him again. I agree our lives depend on this next election.

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  34. Hi Krista!

    Thank you for sharing and explaining your view points and opinions. What a privilege we have to be able to do so freely.

    Although I disagree with you politically. I 100% respect your opinions and support your right to voice them. I am sure that post was scary to write and publish, good for you for being brave!

    I have read your blog for years and years-and will happily continue to do so. ❤️

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  35. Congratulations, fantastically sincere thoughts, thanks!

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  36. Thank you for sharing, Krista! I'm sure it was scary to hit publish on this post, but I'm so happy you did because I resonate so much with what you wrote. Up until recently I kind of went with the flow of what I was surrounded by politically, not realizing my views did not align. It's important to educate ourselves and form our own opinions outside of what we grew up understanding. Thank you again - really appreciate you sharing your thoughts!

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  37. Thank you for being brave enough to speak up. My journey in politics is similar to yours and so much of what you shared resonated with me. We need more kindness, compassion and care towards each other, especially when we are on opposing sides.

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  38. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Krista! Your post is eloquent and thoughtful. So much of what you pointed out resonated with me and it's clear it has with the other commenters as well. I'm proudly voting for Biden in this election because something needs to change and I can only hope that the majority of America feels this way as well.

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  39. Thank you Krista! I appreciate you using your platform to share your honest opinion. Thank you for being an ally.

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  40. Thank you for sharing! As we were talking about with friends this weekend, there is nothing wrong with being a republican. But you also have to look at the person you're voting for, not just the party. I'm a democrat through and through, but I have republican friends and they are disgusted by Trump as a person and a leader. He does not embody their political beliefs.

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